The Hidden Truth About Dysfunctional Relationships – Teal Swan –




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The Hidden Truth About Dysfunctional Relationships – Teal Swan –

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  1. I feel immensely loved by watching your videos. I feel like the fact that someone is taking the time by making videos to help others even if its a paid job but the fact that you chose to devote yourself to this and not a corporate mundane job. It feels extremely loving. I can pretend that you are my close friend and you made these videos specifically for me because you love me and I feel immensely grateful. If  you change the perspective of "oh some youtuber making videos online as a job" and feel a sort of entitlement, you begin to see that love is out there. You don't have to be my close friend for me to feel loved by you and the universe. I hope I made sense.

  2. I love you bless your heart for sharing this medicine with me. I found myself feeling angry hearing my dad tell !y brothers that they need to grow up and be successful by making lots of money. I realized I felt like I wasn't worthy of receiving love unless I was getting things done and being accomplished.
    So I went up to my dad and started crying, I told him that I ate 20 sweet potato pancakes but I actually needed to feel sweetness and warmth from them. My mom came up and hugged me. My dad kept defending himself so I said "dad im not attacking you, I'm not blaming you, I'm asking for your love. do you know how to be sweet?" He admitted that he didn't know how. And my heart softened. I asked him if he can just let me know that he loves me exactly as I am" and he told me that he does. I felt a huge release from my energy field. In spirituality, I have learned to try and be the source of my own support and love. But we are interconnected beings that need each other. It's healing to ask for our needs, especially when we didn't receive that when we were growing up.

  3. But what's the difference on creating a relashionship of codependency to meet or need and using other people to meet our need because sometimes we need other people to meet our needs?

  4. It all comes down to rebellion, a rebellion learnt from bad parenting, and carried through by the youth, a non-conformity to right rule, a focusing solely upon self, and when the years come to a close the character and mind of the individual finally destroys all life, leaving but chaos, confusion, and vexation, even a hollowness to an existence of life.

  5. So being in the womb for 9 months equates to being born 3 months premature?! C'mon!.. Think before you state things like this..

  6. Love the understanding. The cure is lacking. Pretending to go back in time and fixing the underdevelopment is wishful thinking. If this works on someone they didn’t have much of a problem to begin with

  7. Why do we need to perceive separation in individuation as trauma? Perhaps it is not trauma but rather an uncomfortable severing from an unaccommodating environment. Hence, one person's trauma may be indeed another person's dynamic shift towards individuation, and pure emancipation. No growth is without a necessary schism

  8. I really enjoyed this video, and I love the way you illustrate 'needs'.

    For quite a while now, I've not been a fan of calling 'needs' 'needs', and instead calling them 'values' or 'virtues' which can be the same thing really! If I stand up for my values, only to love and celebrate them and prop them up in response to not seeing them, then I am putting them back into reality and I feel happy. I hope that makes sense. Like, if I value affection, then I shall parade around on how much I love affection and I find that I end up attracting people who are also affectionate and it's a win-win!

    Yet if I consider something a 'need', like to the same degree as an inhaler for an asthmatic person is, then I feel anxious, dependent, and angry because I feel powerless. I am now 'needy' and therefore am expectant of these needs to be met and I lash out when they aren't. Because let's say my "need" for affection is just like a need for an inhaler. If someone is having an asthmatic attack and someone else is withholding the inhaler, then one could imagine that many of us would vilify the person withholding the inhaler, right? Because, that's pretty effed up! The person is nearly dying and NEEDS an inhaler and a person is withholding it? What an awful human being! So then, if I take that idea of 'need' for affection and apply it to people who aren't as affectionate to me, I start to lash out at them and get really upset and feel powerless and ultimately express myself poorly. I know this manipulative and controlling, so I haven't enjoyed calling needs 'needs' for quite a while. I hope that makes sense.
    If, instead, I consider it a 'value' or 'virtue' which I can stand up for and take ownership over, instead of a 'need' that I am powerless and needy to, I feel much better! That way, I feel like I can start to attract people who resemble my values, instead of lashing out at people who don't.

    I understand it's just a case of semantics, and that whatever I wish to call them, they're really all the same. Boundaries/needs/values/virtues/etc!

    Once again, I love this video and your work and I hope you are having a good life, Teal Swan!

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